Commit c93c6223

 ("xprtrdma: Disconnect on registration failure")
added a disconnect for some RPC marshaling failures. This is needed
only in a handful of cases, but it was triggering for simple stuff
like temporary resource shortages. Try to straighten this out.

Fix up the lower layers so they don't return -ENOMEM or other error
codes that the RPC client's FSM doesn't explicitly recognize.

Also fix up the places in the send_request path that do want a
disconnect. For example, when ib_post_send or ib_post_recv fail,
this is a sign that there is a send or receive queue resource
miscalculation. That should be rare, and is a sign of a software
bug. But xprtrdma can recover: disconnect to reset the transport and
start over.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>